In this day and age of social media, there’s never been more pressure to be perfect. I find one of the biggest issues that I come across with my clients, is that they’re putting way too much pressure on themselves to be perfect and not accepting themselves as they are.
We are constantly being inundated with messages of all the things we need to be good at, or that we might not be good enough at, from the media, from your friends and family and the fairytales we grew up reading. So, we put pressure on ourselves, to have the perfect body, the perfect life, the perfect partner, the perfect career, the perfect house and children. And we feel like an utter failure if we aren’t achieving all of those things simultaneously.
So, how can you let go of trying to be perfect, and love yourself just as you are?
Start a practice of self-love.
Most of us talk to ourselves like someone we can’t stand. We say things that we would never say to anyone else and if someone close to us told us the horrible things we say to ourselves, we would never talk to them again. We are having an abusive relationship with ourselves. It’s hard to feel confident when you are telling yourself, you are a horrible piece of rubbish every day.
You are the most important person in your life, you will be with yourself for every moment until the day you die. You are the one person that will never leave you and the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. We all crave love and acceptance and it’s crazy that we expect it from other people but refused to give it to ourselves.
The remarkable part is when we love ourselves, we radiate from within, and people are naturally attracted to us. Start a mantra of saying “I love myself” every day, several times a day. Whenever you start to say something negative, replace it with ‘I love myself.’ You will be amazed at the changes.
The most powerful words in the universe are the words you say to yourself. The meaning of the word Abracadabra is – I will create as I speak. An important question to ask yourself is what are you creating with your words?
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