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I have, and am, being very careful not to show my political allegiances. I will be honest, I am old fashioned enough to believe that however brilliant I am, it might put some prospective clients off if they are of a different persuasion.
What would I like to see after tomorrow (and I hope this does not people off), another hung parliament. Both leaders have shown themselves capable of "possible dangerous decisions" and a hung parliament might just temper some sudden ill thought decisions.
I realise that it could cause similar chaotic scenes to those we witnessed recently, but I do believe that it would be "safer" than either a red or blue loose cannon suddenly exploding.
It is probably wishful thinking that some of the MPs will actually grow up!
If you don't agree please don't let it put you off coming to see Caroline or myself to help you to overcome negative patterns of behaviour. If this whole situation is affecting your life, please come. ... See MoreSee Less
Don’t fall short!
Thinking about my 76 years, I have fallen short too many times!
Thomas Edison failed more that 1000 times before he invented the light bulb. Had he stopped after the 1000th we would all be sitting in the dark. Henry Ford failed and went broke 5 times before he created the first affordable car. Had he stopped at the 4th attempt, we would all be riding horses. Elon Musk failed three times before launching the massively successful Falcon rocket. Because if his persistent efforts we may one day commute to Mars.
So, when you try, try all the way, and if you feel like giving up next time, I urge you to walk one extra mile, work one extra day, stretch one extra hour and you will be amazed at what happens when you don’t fall short. ... See MoreSee Less
3 months ago
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There is only one requirement, that you are a smoker and want to become a non-smoker. Perhaps it isn't you, but maybe you know someone who does. £3500 is approximately the annual cost of a packet of 20 cigarettes a day. If you smoke less than that you can do the sum yourself, but I can guarantee it will be more that £110.
Contact us to arrange an initial complimentary consultation to find out how you can pay for that next holiday, pay the deposit on a new car or pay off the credit card. Oh yes, and be healthier at the same time. Contact us, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
This is a special October price to support Stoptober, ... See MoreSee Less
I have been asked why we are offering a reduction of 50% on out stop smoking programme for STOPtober.
Well, it is because we care about our children's health. As most of you know, we have a 4 month old grandson.
Around 1000 children under 5 visit the doctor each with smoke inhalation problems. (Royal College of Physicians)
Every day millions of children are exposed to second hand smoke, causing lung damage, meningitis and cot death.
Being grandparents has certainly channelled our thinking. ... See MoreSee Less
October is the month dedicated to helping people give up smoking.
We are passionate about encouraging people to become non-smokers. Whether you have been smoking for a short time or a lifetime we can help. Are you committed to stopping? because we are committed to helping you.
Please see the offer below and book a free initial consultation to find out more. ... See MoreSee Less
5 months ago
Your life journey will have both peaks and valleys. It would be great if we could always be enjoying the view from the peaks, but that’s just not how life unfolds.
When life is going well we can do everything in our power to enjoy the experience and bask in the glory. These moments help us recognise how amazing life can be!
But we will also be down and out at times. We will have to climb our way out of the valley, and it is these moments where we can develop our grit and resilience.
We can grow into a more wise and composed person.
Both the ups and downs are important for our growth, and whether life is going well or not, we can always focus on doing our best each day.
Some days will be better than others but realise that each day is the sum of the greater whole of your life ... See MoreSee Less
f you live your life without making a difference, what difference does it make that you have lived ... See MoreSee Less
Workplace Stress 7
Working Styles and Pressure levels
There are two styles of working: reactive and proactive. You are reactive when you:
• Accept negative situations as they are
• Blame events and other people for circumstance you are in
• Allow other people and events to take control
Working in a reactive way can be demoralising. Spending your days fire-fighting or being a dogsbody are examples of reactive working style. It puts you under pressure that often leads to stress.
A less stressful working style is to be proactive. Being proactive involves:
• Taking the initiative
• Taking control of your work in some way
• Asking and seeking out rather than complaining that you are being kept in the dark
• Behaving assertively
Choosing to work proactively will reduce the pressure you are under
Next time: The role of blame ... See MoreSee Less
Workplace Stress 6
When you’re under too much pressure the chances are that at one extreme level you fight back, placing blame and becoming aggressive. At the other extreme you run away, becoming withdrawn, being submissive and putting your head in the sand. Not only does this behaviour put you under further pressure, it increases , it also increases the pressure for those around you. To reduce pressure and stress at work you need to.
• Understand the link between behaviour and pressure levels
• Adjust your behaviour and working styles when under pressure
• To be able to ask for help
Today, Behaviour and pressure levels
There are three main styles of behaviour: aggressive, assertive and nin-assertive. Styles of behaviour can be recognised by:
• Choice of words
• Body language
The natural style of behaviour for most people when not under too much pressure is assertive behaviour. Assertive behaviour does not increase pressure. It gives a sense of control, confirms self-respect and respect for others.
Aggressive and non-assertive behaviours are today’s equivalent of fight and flight. They are styles that many people resort to when under pressure, and quickly lead to a downward spiral of stress.
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Workplace Stress 5
First Aid Strategies
As soon as you recognise the signs that you are stressed, try turning your mind to something else or adopting a different perspective. Do something positive to change the situation.
• Use self- talk (I will not get angry – it is not worth it)
• Think how much worse the situation could be
• Keep an open mind ((resolve to keep an open mind until you have established the facts)
• Daydream for a few minutes
• Check your attitude – is it positive?
• Push negative thoughts away as soon as they come into your mind
• Think about known, proven facts only
• Be objective
• Use a mental chant (I will; I am etc)
• Avoid reading things into the situation
• Focus on what you have achieved (there will always be something)
• Breathe slowly and deeply
• If your muscles are tense release them
• Can you take a break from what you are doing?
• If you are slumped in your chair, sit or stand tall
• Smile. Go on do it now! Make your smile wider! Yes, the pressure is still there but with that small action you have given your subconscious the signal to return to normal. That is what first aid is all about.
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Workplace Stress 4
Managing stress is a skill, and like many skill has to be learned, but stress is am emotion and best helped by the subconscious which will help a person to manage that stress permanently and effectively. It has been proven that the most effective method is through hypnosis. However, if you are stressed now, you will want instant results. You will want to apply “first aid” strategies that bring temporary relief strategies that will work “right now”. As I said, managing stress involves learning.
• Short-term strategies which bring temporary relief and
• Long term strategies which prevent stress occurring in the first place.
SHORT TERM STRATEGIES
When confronted with a situation that you find threatening or challenging your body responds with a reflex reaction. It automatically triggers flight or fight.
Because it is a reflex response, you may feel a sense of lack of control or even feel out of control. At this point you need to apply “first aid”, the short term stress management strategies. These strategies are based on the principal that is the emotional effect on your mind and body. Stress starts with an emotion that turns into a physical response. The way to stop the downward spiral is to counter the thought and emotion (apply mental first aid) and check the response (apply physical first aid.) It will help you to regain control.
FIRST AID IS NOT ALWAYS EASY
Thinking and responding in a way that will reduce stress can be difficult when you are under pressure. Pressure thoughts and emotions positive actions are often the last thing on your mind.
However, unless you think and act in a positive way, you will spiral downwards. You are the only one who can break that spiral. No-one else can do it for you. You may not have full control over the pressures around you, but you have full control over your thoughts and responses. You can choose to think and respond in a way that will increase your stress or, you can choose to think and respond in a way that will reduce your stress.
Next time I will give examples of “first aid” strategies. ... See MoreSee Less
Responding to Pressure
If you perceive a pressure as a threat or a challenge, your body will automatically go into overdrive. Going into overdrive includes:
• Your heart rate increasing and your blood pressure rising.
• Muscles hardening and tensing in readiness for action
• Digestive process slowing down and the production of more acid in the stomach
• Your breathing becoming quicker as you lungs try to take up more oxygen
This automatic reaction is known as “fight or flight.” Response because these changes prepare the body to fight or run away. It was a very appropriate mechanism for primitive man. Being able to fight or run to safety when under pressure ensured his survival.
Whilst t might have been useful for primitive man, it is not very helpful in today’s environment. When you feel threatened or challenged by pressures at work the fight or flight response is triggered. Your body goes into overdrive. Neither fighting nor running away will help you ion the work environment. So, you don’t! You continue to ignore the fight or flight cycle, and as a result the pressures increase. You have unwittingly converted a useful cycle into a downward spiral.
The key to understand and managing stress is to know that the fight or flight response is only activated when you perceive a pressure as a threat or challenge.
Imagine if you manager asks to meet you in his office in half an hour. If you response is to start to think, “What have I done wrong?” “Am I going to lose my job?” “Why his office?” “Why so soon?” “Why me?”, you will trigger the fight or flight response. You become so concerned about the meeting that you can think of nothing else. As a result, you waste half an hour and in doing so put pressure on yourself. You will arrive at the meeting in a state of stress.
Remember stress is not an “illness” it is an emotional reaction to pressure. In a working environment the only things capable of reaction to pressure are people.
While stress up to a certain point can be positive, uncontrolled stress for a long period of time can seriously damages your mental and physical well-being. Stress affects individuals. It also affects companies. When people at work are stressed, morale is low, mistakes are made absenteeism rises and profit falls. ... See MoreSee Less
Road of Change
Stress in the Workplace pt 2
What Is Stress?
Stress means different things to different people. It may include:
• A meeting with the boss
• Giving a presentation
• An irate customer
• Having to do something that you have not done before
• A tight deadline
• An unnecessary mistake
• A difference of opinion
• Too much work
What is stressful to you today, may not necessarily be stressful to you tomorrow or the day after.
Stress can be positive:
• It gives you the opportunity to prove yourself
• You might work to a better deadline
• It could give you a positive emotional charge
Stress can be negative
• You become less efficient performance and productivity fall
• Deadlines send you into a blind panic- you achieve nothing
• You seek comfort by snacking, smoking or perhaps drinking
Because stress is all of these things, it is best described as:
“An individual’s response to pressure”
Tomorrow – Responding to Pressure
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From Road of Change.
We will posting a series of ways in which stress in the workplace can be reduced.
By way of introduction.
Work and pressure go hand in hand. There may be deadlines to meet, problems to resolve, challenges to rise to. The work may stretch you, bore you, working relationships may be strained, the future of your job may be uncertain. Everyone experiences pressure at work.
At one level, pressure may be a positive aid to performance. A deadline might spur you on. A target might motivate you. A challenge might inspire you. At another level, pressure might trigger a mechanism to tell you that something is wrong. You will start to experience stress. If you continue beyond this level for too long, you can seriously damage your health and well being.
Tomorrow - What is stress?
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8 months ago
Received yesterday from a lovely chap who has had a problem for many years which has affected his life. He discovered his way out of it and is now preparing for his true life.
"Today has been a rather emotional day for a variety of reasons. First I went to my last 4Networking meeting for the foreseeable future. Over the time I have been with 4Networking Kent, I have made a lot of friend and many have helped me both personally and with my business.
Later I had a meeting with the amazing Chris Williams. This lasted a lot longer than I think either of us expected and a lot of things were said. If you live in Kent I can highly recommend Chris not only for his hypnotherapy (and everyone should know I am generally a sceptic about most things) but also as a person.
Chris is an amazing character and individual Recently he has been helping me work through a lot of issues I have built up throughout most of my life.
I am rarely a person who is at a loss for a word or a opinion but Chris said something that left me almost speechless, and with a realisation that will hopefully have a profound positive effect on my life."
I know why I love CONTROL and this job! ... See MoreSee Less